Princeton mom: 'Find a husband on campus'
People walk on the campus of Princeton University.
A letter to the editor featured late last week in a student newspaper has provoked such impassioned interest it may have literally crashed the newspaper website on which it is housed.
The Daily Princetonian published a letter Friday from Susan Patton, a Princeton University alumna who is also the mother of a current Princeton student and a young Princeton alum -- both men. Patton’s missive, aimed at Princeton women, offers “what you really need to know that nobody is telling you.”
In the letter, she urges female Princeton students to quickly find a suitable husband from among the university’s undergraduate male population.
“If I had daughters, this is what I would be telling them,” she writes, “For most of you, the cornerstone of your future and happiness will be inextricably linked to the man you marry, and you will never again have this concentration of men who are worthy of you. Here’s what nobody is telling you: Find a husband on campus before you graduate.”
Why is she advising Princeton women to grab a hubby with such haste? Because beyond the school’s Ivy-covered walls, it seems the world is lacking in brainy gentlemen.
“Smart women can’t (shouldn’t) marry men who aren’t at least their intellectual equal,” Patton contends. “As Princeton women, we have almost priced ourselves out of the market. Simply put, there is a very limited population of men who are as smart or smarter than we are. And I say again -- you will never again be surrounded by this concentration of men who are worthy of you. Of course, once you graduate, you will meet men who are your intellectual equal -- just not that many of them.”
One other nugget: Don’t date younger.
In Patton’s words: “As freshman women, you have four classes of men to choose from. Every year, you lose the men in the senior class, and you become older than the class of incoming freshman men. So, by the time you are a senior, you basically have only the men in your own class to choose from, and frankly, they now have four classes of women to choose from. Maybe you should have been a little nicer to these guys when you were freshmen?”
The letter has inspired a bevy of snarky and intense putdowns in the press -- and oodles of online comments.
Dan Reimold, Ph.D., is a college journalism scholar who has written and presented about the student press throughout the U.S. and in Southeast Asia. He is an assistant professor of journalism at the University of Tampa, where he also advises The Minaret student newspaper. He maintains the student journalism industry blog College Media Matters. A complete list of Campus Beat articles is here.
This story originally appeared on the Paste BN College blog, a news source produced for college students by student journalists. The blog closed in September of 2017.