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The art of complaining: How to get what you want without being a jerk


As both a newspaper editor who sometimes gets calls from sometimes unhappy readers and an adult human resident of Consumer Land, I've been on each side of complaints.

I think that makes me an expert on the subject.

We all have complaints.

About service. Prices. Surprise fees. The TV in the next hotel room that is unreasonable loud at 2 a.m.

And we should complain when things are wrong. That's how problems are recognized and, one hopes, fixed.

But there's an art to complaining in a way that will not only get you what you want, but leave you the same non-jerk you were when you started.

Here are a few steps:

Step 1: Is your complaint valid?