My pet is getting older. How will I know when it’s time to say goodbye?
The most difficult part of owning a pet is saying goodbye. But making the decision on when it’s time to let them go can oftentimes be just as grief-filled. The American Veterinary Medical Association says, “Sometimes, the kindest thing you can do for a pet that is so ill or severely injured that they’ll never be able to resume a quality life, is to have your veterinarian provide a humane death by euthanasia.” Your pet can’t tell you how they’re feeling or make the choice themselves, so how do you know when it’s time?
Veterinarian Dr. Alice Villalobos developed the HHHHHMM Scale, a guide recommended by universities and veterinarians, to help determine a pet’s quality of life and assist owners in making the difficult decision to say goodbye.
HURT
Pets can’t tell us when they’re hurting, but they do exhibit signs of pain and discomfort such as limping, wincing, and yelping or whining. If your pet is in pain, they may stop allowing you to touch them in certain areas or may have trouble getting comfortable. Most importantly, if your pet is having difficulty breathing it is a clear sign they are in pain. According to the Merck Veterinary Manual, “not being able to breathe easily can be one of the most painful experiences for an animal.”
HUNGER
If your animal can’t eat on its own or has lost interest in food altogether, it can be an indicator of pain or underlying health issues and can lead to malnutrition. The American Animal Hospital Association (AAHA) recommends keeping a close eye on their eating frequency, food preferences, and weight changes.
HYDRATION
If your animal has stopped drinking water, it can be a sign of health issues or pain and can lead to dehydration. According to Dr. Jerry Klein, Chief Veterinary Officer for the American Kennel Club, signs of dehydration include:
- Loss of skin elasticity
- Loss of appetite
- Vomiting (with or without diarrhea)
- Reduced energy levels and lethargy
- Panting
- Sunken, dry-looking eyes
- Dry nose
- Dry, sticky gums
- Thick saliva
If left untreated, dehydration can be fatal. Call your veterinarian if your pet isn’t drinking fluids or is showing signs of dehydration.
HYGIENE
If your pet is no longer grooming itself, especially with cats, it’s a sign something is wrong. Additional questions to ask yourself about your pet’s hygiene: Will my animal let me groom them? Is their coat greasy or matted? Can they keep themselves clean after soiling?
HAPPINESS
One of the biggest determining factors in a pet’s quality of life is their happiness. While senior dogs don’t have as much energy or play as often as they used to, are they still interacting with the family? Do they still enjoy treats, toys or walks? Does your cat still purr or sleep on your bed? If your pet isn’t showing interest or excitement in anything, it’s a sign they might be unhappy.
MOBILITY
Your pet should be able to move around easily and without pain. If your animal has difficulty walking, standing, climbing stairs or stepping inside the litter box, they are no longer able to satisfy their needs and are likely experiencing discomfort.
MORE GOOD DAYS THAN BAD
The heartbreaking reality is, if your pet’s bad days far outweigh the good ones, it’s typically a sign they are nearing the end.
Making the decision to say goodbye to your pet is devastating, but knowing when it’s time to let go can be the most humane thing you can do for them.